Overcoming Failure
We all fail at times. What sets successful people apart is not that they never fail, it is that they are able to bounce back after a failure and go on to the next thing.
What allows those folks to cope with the failure and go on to succeed? There are several characteristics shared by people who come back from failure. Here are a few ideas that may help you deal with failure more effectively and not let it stop you in your tracks.
You are not a failure just because something you attempted failed. The failure does not define you.
Failure is not a character flaw. You are not a bad person because you reached for the stars and missed.
Failure is a learning experience. You probably made some mistakes along the way, so what would you do differently next time? What lessons did you learn? Your most valuable education may come from the school of hard knocks.
Look for the blessings in failure. If you had gotten that job you wanted, you wouldn’t have been able to spend much time with your kids, and you would have missed out on impossible-to-replace memories. And remember that a new door can not open until another closes.
Remember that you are not the first person to fail, and you will not be the last. Do not allow your embarrassment or fear to stop you from seeking advice and help from others so you can move forward.
Do not dwell on the failure. Some people run their failures through their minds like a non-stop, depressing movie, reliving every unhappy moment and wallowing in self-pity and regret. Get over it. Learn from it. Move on.
Learn to laugh at yourself. Some failures are funny, but usually not at the time. Maybe you tried something and made a fool of yourself. You know how people say, “Years from now, you will look back at this and laugh”? Try to see the humor in it today. It is not easy, but the sooner you learn to take failure less seriously, the sooner you will get over it and on to the next (successful) thing.
Most importantly, remember that the only way not to fail is never to attempt anything. And you don’t want to be that person, do you? I didn’t think so.
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