Getting Over “One of Those Days”
Do you ever have “one of those days?” You know, when it seems like everything is going wrong, and you start to wonder whose karma you messed with? Lots of things can set off bad feelings--rejection, financial set backs, computer crashes, etc. Whatever the cause, you can get through it and get back on your feet.
I got a call recently from a client who was facing “one of those days.” She was feeling frustrated and wondering if she could make her business work. Here’s the advice I gave her. It will work for you, too.
First of all, realize that we all go through tough times. They may be more frequent when you are starting out, because you don’t have a long track record of success (yet) and you may not have a lot resources to fall back on. But everyone deals with dark days. You are not alone.
The best antidote to a bad day is to take action to make good things happen. I recommended an event my client could attend that evening where she might meet some people who could help her business. Even if she didn’t, at least she would get out of the house and have a good time. She was able to make several contacts which may turn in to business and, yes, she had a good time.
What if business doesn’t materialize from those contacts? Well, another benefit of getting out and mingling is that it can put you in an “up” mood. It is very hard to do the things you need to do when you are feeling depressed or frustrated. Having even a small success helps motivate you to do more and generate more successes.
Do something that excites you and makes you happy, then use that energy to get moving on a business project. It might be getting together with friends, going dancing, exercising, or whatever you enjoy.
Call a friend who will listen to you, lend a supportive shoulder, then kick you in the butt. I have been told that I am not a good person to call if you just want someone to feel sorry for you. My response tends to be, “Yeah, that stinks. So, what are you going to do to change it?” A little feeling sorry for yourself is OK, but just feeling miserable, and getting others to agree that life is unfair, doesn’t do anything to make your situation better.
Know when it is time to regroup. It may be time to make a change in direction, or explore new opportunities. That doesn’t mean abandoning what you are trying to accomplish, but perhaps attacking it in another way.
Don’t let yourself get caught up in a cycle of negative thoughts and feelings. Believe in yourself and your abilities and others will, too. Break the cycle of doubt and fear and you can make great things happen. Oh, and chocolate can help, too.
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